Your mindset matters. Period.
Whether you’re a mama struggling to manage a new baby and adjust to life with 2 kids now or a Mum who’d like a bit more calm and peace in a busy household, your mindset makes all the difference to how you feel and even deal with life every.single.day.
If you’re struggling, feeling overwhelmed, at-the-end-of-your-rope
If you need more energy, more clarity, more confidence in your decisions
If you’d like to see a change in your home, or yourself
You need to start with your mindset.
How can you create mindset shifts, though? What do you need to do so you can go from feeling snappy, cranky and exhausted to feeling calm, peaceful and energised?
Here are the 5 easiest ways anyone, and especially, exhausted, tired Mamas can create mindset shifts:
1. Brain Dump
That’s right. Sit down and do a brain dump. Just write down everything that’s floating in your head, taking up all that space, keeping you awake at night and causing you to be forgetful or snappy.
Write, just write. Don’t edit. Don’t hold yourself back. Write down every little thing that you feel worries you, troubles you, makes you feel “less than”.
Now make 3 columns. Label them as “Can Change”, “Can’t Change”, and “Can Change but Not Right Now” and then, drop the different items into these 3 columns.
This little exercise will not only help you clear your head but also give you direction on what changes need to be made, what will stay as is and so you need to stop fretting over it, as well as what life changes will happen once your life season changes maybe.
2. Practice Self Care
The key word here is “practice”.
Self care is non-negotiable and even when you feel you just don’t have the time for it, you actually do. Self care doesn’t have to mean heading to the spa or taking a few days off for a girls’ weekend.
Self care is the simple things. The small things that make a big difference.
Self care is drinking a glass of water when you wake up and taking your vitamins after breakfast.
Self care is listening to music while you do the dishes.
Self care is sitting down to journal when the kids are playing quietly.
Make a list of 7-10 things you can do easily enough that will replenish your depleted energy reserves without taking a tonne of time.
HINT: You can grab my free list of 49 simple self care practices HERE.
3. Positive Self-Talk
As mamas, we tend to be our own worst critics. “Tis sad but true.
We hold ourselves up to unreasonably high standards, fall into the trap of comparing ourselves with others, and fail to give ourselves credit for all that we do.
It’s time to change that.
For your mindset to change, you need to feed yourself words of kindness, gentleness, encouragement, inspiration.
Start by reading books that inspire you and uplift you. Start by mentally stopping yourself when you feel your inner critic coming on.
Encourage yourself as you’d encourage your best friend.
4. Say “No”
Your mindset shifts when you start to say “no”.
No to comparing yourself with others.
No to doing what robs you of your peace of mind.
No to what stresses you out.
No to projects and programs that don’t align with your family’s manifesto.
Start today. Say “no” to what doesn’t feel right, good, joyful, exciting, peaceful.
5. Get More Sleep
Finally, for your mindset to change and for you to go from feeling overwhelmed to being in control, you need to rest.
Get more sleep. How?
Take a short nap when the kids nap.
Make sure you turn the TV or the laptop off and head to bed earlier than usual.
Delegate a few chores after dinner so you can have an earlier bedtime.
Ask for help from a friend, your spouse, a family member. Ask them to help with watching the kids while you can take a short nap. Ask if they can do some chores for you so you can rest a bit.
Are you ready to change your mindset so you can go from cranky to calm?
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